Survive Divorce – And Thrive
Did my first blog post in this series freak you out? Sorry to scare you, but I’m serious: if you don’t have your health, you’re in trouble.
If you missed it, check it out here.
The good news is this: there are simple steps you can take to safeguard your health while you’re going through a separation.
First and foremost, you need to get yourself eating well and sleeping well. I know: easier said than done. So, what does that actually look like?
How to eat your way through divorce (in a good way)
Fuel your body
Food is designed to be streamed at intervals, not skipped, or intermittently fasted, like some of us do when disaster strikes!
Remember if you skip a meal or deprive the body of adequate protein or fat, you will crave lost nutrients in the form of sugar, carbohydrates, alcohol or caffeine. You know what happens if you continually fall into this trap: tooth decay, gum disease, cardiovascular or cancer risk. It gets some people between 3-5 pm (if you’re not a believer, check out the cafes at this time) or it will chase you for the next three days. A nutritionist can help menu plan, if needed.
Watch the clock
Don’t eat for at least two hours prior to bedtime, otherwise you’ll encourage insulin release and interfere with the correct hormonal cascade at night. It’s true, our bodies have different hormones for day and night body function. That’s why getting to sleep on time and waking with the sun (if possible – okay, if you have kids it’s obviously no problem!) is also very important.
Kick your crutches to the curb
Cut down on your wine, coffee and chai lattes. I mean right down — to nil, if possible. It’s time to get on the herbal tea train. Yogi calming tea, peppermint tea or chamomile tea. And drink plenty of water, as your body will be producing many toxins from high levels of stress.
Start the day with an energy drink (no, not the canned variety)
Your capacity for optimal health is determined by what you consume, digest, absorb, utilize and excrete. So the best place to start is by improving gastrointestinal function. Not only does this drink help the body balance pH levels, detox and replace populations of friendly bacteria in the gut but it also helps your skin to glow. Consume a glass on rising and then finish throughout the day.
1 litre water
3 heaped tsp of Vit-C powder
20 mls lemon juice
10 mls lime juice
10 mls apple cider vinegar
1⁄4 tsp salt
Source: Nutrition Diagnostics
Start some self-care
Go for a medical and dental check up. If your budget allows, get a blood test to check your overall health status. In fact, have whatever health check ups you can while you are still on a family health plan (if applicable) to save you money.
Make a rule to not have up close and personal screen time with your phone or tablet for a couple of hours before bed. Hard, I know (but it really is best not to stalk your ex on Facebook). The blue light that screens emit can interrupt sleep patterns and circadian rhythms. Early research also shows that overexposure to blue light can contribute to eye strain and discomfort. That can trigger serious conditions later in life such as age-related macular degeneration, which can lead to blindness.
Detox your bedroom
Remove all wireless and electrical devices from the bedroom. Replace your clock radio with a good old-fashioned alarm clock – and mobile devices in the bedroom overnight are a big N-O. The electromagnetic radiation produced by these appliances creates a resonant stress on the human body, which directly affects our organs, glands, hormones and emotional states.
Promote better sleep
If you still have trouble getting to sleep try:
playing a guided meditation for deep sleep – easy to find on YouTube or apps like Headspace (play it from the next room), or
diffusing essential oils, adding them to a bath or rubbing on the soles of your feet. So relaxing!
If you have children, think about arranging a regular play date with family or friends so you can have a few hours of “me” time each week. Use this time to take some deep breaths (and get the oxygen flowing), make list of all the things you are grateful for, exercise (to clear your head and get those endorphins pumping) and use it as an opportunity for self-care.
Boost your mood
Meditate. Try yoga. Or tai chi. And, here’s a tip – when doing your sun salutations (or any of these practises), always make a point of facing the ocean – even if it’s miles off. Why? It’s all about negative ions. They are odourless, tasteless, and invisible molecules that we inhale in abundance in certain environments. Think mountains, waterfalls, and beaches. Once these negative ions reach our bloodstream, it is said they produce biochemical reactions that increase levels of the mood chemical serotonin, helping to alleviate depression, relieve stress, and boost our daytime energy. WebMD
These are just a few ideas to help you become an advocate for your own good health. Listen to your body. And treasure the gift you’ve been given.
I’d love to know how your body is feeling today. And what you’re doing to take care of it. Let me know in the comments below!
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You’re doing just fine. Take it one day at a time. And remember, be especially kind to yourself.
Founder | Hello Mojo