(Because “just surviving” is not the vibe)

Let’s be honest—if separation or divorce came with a soundtrack, it wouldn’t exactly be a feel-good Spotify playlist.

More like:
“Crying in the Shower (Again)”
“What Do I Even Do With Myself?”
and everyone’s favourite,
“I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore (But I Still Have to Make School Lunches).”

If you’re in the early days of a breakup, I want you to know: You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

But wow, that becoming part? It’s messy. It’s heavy. And most days, it doesn’t come with an instruction manual.

The Myth of the "Strong One"

Let me guess—you’re juggling a thousand moving pieces: legal stuff, your kids' emotions, everyone else's advice, and your own big, tender, human heart.

And somewhere in the chaos, the idea of self-care feels… laughable.
Frivolous. Maybe even selfish?

Let me lovingly call BS on that.

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival.
Actually, scratch that. Self-care is how we move beyond survival and begin to thrive.

So what is self-care, really?

It’s not always facials and bubble baths (though those are lovely too). It’s any action or intention that protects your peace, preserves your energy, and reconnects you to yourself—especially when everything feels like it’s falling apart.

Truth? I didn’t nail this part when I was in it. I had a baby and a toddler. I was running on fumes. And spoiler alert: pouring from an empty cup doesn’t win you any medals.

So this is your permission slip (actually, your full-blown permission manifesto) to do it differently.

Not perfectly. Just more gently.

10 Self-Care Rituals That Won’t Break the Bank or Require a Retreat

1. Get into nature

Sit in your garden, breathe deeply, and zoom in on something beautiful: a drifting cloud, a blooming flower, even an ant doing its tiny, determined thing. Nature calms your nervous system. Science backs it. But your soul already knows it. Here are 11 cool scientific reasons that prove nature relaxes.

2. Take a magnesium-rich bath

Add essential oils and Epsom salts, hit play on a calming playlist or meditation, and let your body melt into the moment. Magnesium boosts calm, reduces anxiety, and feels like a warm hug from the inside out. Here are some tips to get started.

3. Channel your inner kid

Remember what lit you up as a child? Do that. Swing at the park. Finger paint. Dance to ‘90s pop. You don’t have to be “good”—just present. Here are some great steps to get started.

4. Star gaze

Lie down. Look up. Breathe. You are part of something bigger. And this moment, as heavy as it feels, will pass.

5. Take an e-tox

That’s right—no phone, no email, no DMs. Tell your people you’ll be MIA for a while and reclaim your bandwidth. Guilt-free. Because guess what? You are not required to be constantly reachable.

6. Chase the sunrise

There’s something about watching the sun come up that whispers, “You get another chance today.” And you do.

7. Do one kind thing for someone else

When your heart hurts, generosity helps shift the energy. Send a kind message. Pay for someone’s coffee. Smile at a stranger. Goodness multiplies.

8. Be here now

Make a cup of tea. Sit somewhere still. Instead of spiralling into “what-ifs,” gently return to “what is.” You are breathing. You are healing. You are here.

9. Book a massage (or DIY a mini one)

Let someone else hold space for your body. Ask for quiet. Let the tension release. Cry if you need to. It’s all welcome.

10. Connect with you

Before you check your phone in the morning, check in with yourself. Roll your shoulders. Breathe. Say something kind to your reflection. Drink lemon water. Put on something that makes you feel a tiny bit more like you.

Reminder: You are allowed to feel AND to heal.

If the tears come (and they probably will), let them.
Feel them.
Then let them go.
You’re doing the bravest work of all: rebuilding.

Start Today (Seriously—like today-today)

You don’t need to be healed to start healing.
You don’t need to be ready to start caring.
You don’t need to have it all figured out to take the next right step.

And if you're wondering what that next step might be? I've got you covered.

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10 First Steps in Divorce
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Because the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you’re rebuilding with yourself.

You’ve got this. And I’ve got you.

With love,
xx Annie
Founder, Hello Mojo