Because the version of you that's coming? She's wiser, stronger—and maybe even a little wild.

Ever heard Garth Brooks’ Unanswered Prayers?
Stay with me here—I promise this hasn’t turned into a country music blog. But seriously: pause what you’re doing, jump on YouTube, and give it a listen. Cringe hat optional.

Because that song? It holds a truth bomb the size of your mother-in-law’s opinion at Christmas.

Sometimes, not getting what we thought we wanted… is exactly what we needed.

When my marriage ended, it felt like someone had yanked the rug out from under every dream I’d ever laid down. I was lost. And I don’t mean the cute "Eat Pray Love" kind of lost—I mean mascara-in-tea, stare-at-the-wall, who even am I anymore? kind of lost.

On the outside, I was faking fine. But inside? Hot mess express, right on schedule.

Then—one day, mid-school drop-off chaos—Unanswered Prayers came on the radio. And something cracked open. Not in a cheesy "everything happens for a reason" kind of way. But more like a tiny whisper that said:

“What if this is happening for you—not to you?”

Enter: A mountain cabin, incense, and a spiritual reader (yep, really)

A friend booked me in with a spiritual reader, and I went along mostly out of politeness and mild curiosity (okay, and a tiny bit of desperation).

The woman tilted her head, eyes kind but steady, paused for a long moment, and said:
“Your ex was one of your teachers. Your destiny, my dear, is still waiting for you!”

Cue the actual goosebumps.

And just quietly? She may have also mentioned that his butt would look unreasonably good in moleskin pants.

Something shifted. I wasn’t ready to build a vision board or write a self-help book… but I did start asking different questions.

Like:
What if the story I thought I was supposed to live… isn’t the one I’m meant to live at all?

So—how do you find yourself after divorce?

I did what any spiritually curious, emotionally fried woman would do: I asked Google. And then landed on—you guessed it—Tony Robbins.

In one of his talks, he explained something that helped me reframe the whole what just happened to my life? question.

Here’s the gist:

We all build a blueprint of how we think life is supposed to look.

You know: The partner. The house. The kids. The vibe. The vacations.
It’s the story you build in your head from the time you're old enough to say, "When I grow up..."

I had mine, too. It involved love, travel, a thriving career, four babies, a dream home, and being super fit, generous, and wildly successful.

And when D-Day hit?
That blueprint burned.

Pain shows up when reality no longer matches the story

Tony puts it like this:

“Happiness is when your reality matches—or exceeds—your blueprint.”

And unhappiness? That’s when life stops lining up with the plan.
But true suffering happens when not only does your blueprint fall apart—you also feel like you have no control over it.

Been there? You’re not alone.

So… what do we do when everything we thought we wanted collapses?

We’ve got options.

Option 1: Blame the heck out of everyone

It’s the easy road. It’ll even feel really good for about 10 minutes.
But spoiler: it won’t heal you.
As Nelson Mandela said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping your enemy will die.”
Ouch. (But also, yep.)

Option 2: Try to recreate the old blueprint

Hello rebound relationships, impulse decisions, and life-filling activities that look shiny but don’t actually fill the hole.
This one’s tempting. But you’ll likely end up reliving the same patterns in a new postcode.

Option 3: Change the blueprint

Now this—this is the brave path.

It means letting go of what was supposed to be, and stepping into what could be.
It means sitting in the messy middle, reimagining your story, and building a blueprint that actually fits who you are now.

Is it harder?
Yes.

Is it worth it?
Absolutely.

A New Blueprint Looks Like…

✨ Storyboarding new dreams that light you up
✨ Ditching limiting beliefs and rewriting your inner dialogue
✨ Creating new routines and rituals that help you reconnect with YOU
✨ Saying no to anything (or anyone) that no longer fits
✨ Choosing growth—even when grief whispers otherwise

Here’s what I know for sure

• You are not too late to create something beautiful.

• This isn’t the end of your story—it’s a wildly brave new chapter.

• And the woman you’re becoming? She’s going to blow your mind.

Tony (yep, back to Tony) says:

“Sometimes not getting your original blueprint is the best thing that ever happens to you. Because it forces you to grow, shift, and find something deeper.”

And while I definitely rolled my eyes at that early on—I now get it.

You, right now, are in a chrysalis. Not a coffin.

This isn’t your ending. It’s your becoming.

If you’re feeling lost right now, that doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
It means you're shedding, shifting, and shaping into someone even more whole.

The real question isn’t “How did I get here?”
It’s: “What do I want to do with this?”

So… what now?

💛 Take some quiet time and get curious about your new blueprint.
💛 Journal. Walk. Cry. Rage. Dance it out.
💛 Let this season of loss become a launchpad for something more honest and aligned.

And remember: your healing doesn’t have to happen in a vacuum.

If you’re facing separation, divorce, co-parenting, or anything in between, I created Hello Mojo to be your companion through the hard stuff.

🎁 Start by grabbing my free guide:
👉 10 First Steps in Divorce —a gentle, practical starting point for anyone wondering “What now?”

✨ Then pop over to the Resources Hub—where you’ll find soul-supportive tools, programs, and transformation courses designed to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and way more mojo.

And hey—
Be proud of yourself for showing up here.
Because when you look back at this season, you’ll see it as the beginning of your becoming.
Not the breaking.

You’re doing just fine.
One day at a time.
Be especially kind to yourself.

With love,
xx Annie
Founder | Hello Mojo