(No more spiralling every time you see your ex’s “new life” on Instagram.)

There’s your ex:
Fresh haircut. Post-gym glow. Phone pinging with Tinder notifications. The kids laughing up at them like they’re Santa in sneakers.

And then there’s you:
Bags under your eyes. Bank account giving “try again later” energy. Brain stuck in a loop of "How did I end up here?"

Sound familiar?

Let me say the thing you already know but might need to hear out loud:
That perfectly filtered version of their life isn’t your problem.
Your healing, your future, your joy? That’s the real story worth telling.

Because here’s the truth:
✨ You CAN attract all the good things you desire post-divorce.
💛 It starts with your mindset.
And yes—it’s 100% okay if your current mindset is “Netflix and tears with a side of wine.”

You don’t have to be healed to begin.
You just have to start.

Step One: Open your mind (even if it’s been slammed shut by rage texts and legal bills)

Let’s be honest—there are a lot of things to be offended by right now. Your ex’s weirdly smug tone. Their new partner’s questionable outfit choices. The fact that your lawyer bill could fund a trip to Bali. Twice.

But as Wayne Dyer says (and I know he’s more cardigan vibes than courtroom energy),

“Most people spend their lives looking for reasons to be offended.”

Oof. Called out.

Being constantly offended = victim mode.
Open-mindedness = possibility mode.

So what if—even just for today—you swapped “why is this happening to me?”
for “what if this is happening for me?”

💡 Try this: Next time something frustrates you, pause. Take a breath. Then find one small, glittering thing in that moment to be grateful for. Even if it’s just the fact you didn’t punch anyone.

Step Two: Stop looking for blue when you actually want gold

You know that thing where you buy a new car—one in a colour you were sure no one else had—and suddenly you see it everywhere? That’s not the universe mocking your taste. It’s your brain locking in on what it’s been told matters.

Same goes for your thoughts.
If you’re looking for chaos, you’ll see it.
If you’re looking for what’s missing, you’ll feel it.

But if you start actively noticing the good—even the teeny-tiny kind?
You start attracting more of it.

💡 Try this: Take your ex out of the equation entirely. Start focusing on what YOU want your life to look like. No more “they have it all together.” Flip it. Say out loud:
“I’m building a beautiful life. I’ve got this.”
Even if you say it through gritted teeth at first. That still counts.

Step Three: You already have everything (you just forgot for a second)

Neale Donald Walsch says that every version of the life you want already exists.
You just have to call it in.

Not with desperation. Not from a mindset of lack.
But from a place of quiet, grounded, truthful desire.

Here’s what that means:

• “I want a nicer home (because I’m suffocating in this shoebox).”
  🛑 The universe hears: lack, stress, tightness.

• “I want more money (because I’m drowning in bills).”
  🛑 The universe hears: fear, panic, not enough.

Now try this:
“I desire a space that feels peaceful and abundant.”
“Money flows into my life with ease, and I welcome it.”

It’s not about wishful thinking. It’s about vibrational alignment. (And if that sounded too woo woo for you, just call it "intentional optimism"—same thing.)

💡 Try this: Stick affirmations where you’ll actually see them. Your bathroom mirror. The fridge. The dash of your car.
Repeat them until your inner critic gets bored and leaves the room.

“I am safe. I am strong. I am rebuilding something better than before.”

And hey—if you need help getting out of the emotional mud and into this vibe consistently, check out our 21-Day Emotional Freedom Program. It’s like a reset button for your soul.

Step Four: Align your vibe with what you actually want

Ever think of someone and then bam—they message you?
That’s not magic. That’s energy.

Welcome to what the spiritual science nerds call The Law of Vibration—and spoiler: it’s more than just a Pinterest quote.

Everything—your thoughts, your feelings, even your playlists—carry a frequency.
And like attracts like.

So if you’re vibing at “life is a dumpster fire,” the universe doesn’t judge—it just matches it.

Here’s the scoop from Camillo Loken (think: Law of Attraction meets science guy):
Your thoughts vibrate. Literally. And they send out signals.
Positive energy attracts positive outcomes. Negative energy? You get the idea.

And here’s the kicker:

“Thought is the most potent vibration.”
Translation? It’s not just about your vision board. It’s your whole self—your energy, your emotions, your focus.

So yes, you can ask for more money, more peace, a new home, or a love that feels like a safe place to land…

But if you’re simmering in “not enough,” the universe hears lack—not the thing you actually want.

You can’t just want the life—you’ve got to vibe with it.
You can’t say “I want calm” while rage-texting your ex.
You can’t beg for love while ghosting your own needs.

✨ Instead, feel the version of you who already has it.
✨ Visualise her. Dress like her. Talk like her.
✨ Dance in your kitchen like she already lives there.

The energy you send is the energy you call back. Period.

💡 Try this: Don’t just ask for the thing you want.
Fall in love with the feeling of already having it. Let your whole body feel what it would be like to live in that peaceful home, laugh again with your kids, or dance in your kitchen on a random Tuesday because your joy came back.

You don’t have to be perfectly healed to start attracting your best life.

You just have to decide that you’re done staying stuck.

And here’s your reminder from none other than Bruce Lee:

“To hell with circumstances. I make opportunities.”

You get to be the creator now.
Not the character in someone else’s storyline.

Whether you’re at the beginning, stuck in the messy middle, or crawling out the other side of divorce, these mindset shifts aren’t just fluffy self-help—they’re your tools for rewiring your reality.

Surround yourself with people who lift your energy, not drain it. People who feel like sunlight and text back things like “You’ve got this” instead of forwarding you photos of your ex’s new partner’s engagement ring.
(Vibes matter. Choose wisely.)

If you’re aware you’re not happy right now, that’s not failure. That’s feedback.
The universe is handing you a flashlight and saying: time to look in a new direction.

So, lift your gaze.
Lift your energy.
Lift your expectations.

✨ Focus on what you want—not what you lack.
✨ Mix with people who help you remember who you are.
✨ Take one inspired action toward the life you desire.

👉 If you’re brand new to this journey and still figuring out which way is up, start with my free guide: 10 First Steps in Divorce.
It’s gentle. It’s practical. And it’s written by someone who’s been where you are.

✨ And if you’re ready to really shift the emotional heaviness and start feeling like you again?
Explore the 21-Day Emotional Freedom Program—your guided path to let go, level up, and actually move on with intention and power.

You’re doing just fine.
One breath, one choice, one moment at a time.

And don’t forget—what you focus on expands.

With love,
xx Annie
Founder | Hello Mojo