(Hint: You Don’t Do It Alone.)

Let’s be real—divorce can feel like someone flipped your life upside down, gave it a good shake, and walked off without leaving you a manual.

There’s the emotional tornado, the logistics of “who gets what,” and the quiet moments when you wonder how you’re going to do this on your own.

But here’s the truth no one tells you: you’re not supposed to.

You know that old saying, "It takes a village to raise a child?" Well, it also takes a village to hold you together when your world feels like it’s falling apart.

This blog is your permission slip to stop white-knuckling it solo.

You Need a Village (Yes, You.)

Before you go thinking, “I don’t want to burden anyone,” let’s reframe: This isn’t about burdening people. It’s about being supported by the right people.

Here’s the deal: assembling your divorce support squad is like wrapping yourself in bubble wrap—soft, sturdy, and ready to cushion the falls. (And yeah, there might be a few. That’s OK.)

Some of these people might be ride-or-die from day one. Others may float in for just a season. That’s not a failure—it’s the ebb and flow of healing.

So let’s build your entourage, shall we?

The 10 People (and Practices) That Belong in Your Divorce Support Crew

1. An Emotional Safe Zone

Find a person—or a few—who can handle the full messy truth of what you’re going through. That might be a best friend, a counsellor, a church leader, or someone who’s been where you are and come out stronger.

✨ Pro tip: Avoid the drama magnets. You don’t need someone who fuels the fire—you need someone who helps you sit in the ashes and rebuild.

2. Your Legal + Financial Avengers

Yep, it's time to get practical:

• A lawyer who actually listens.

• An accountant (yours or someone new) who understands your numbers and your nerves.

• A financial advisor who doesn’t make you feel dumb for asking the same question twice.

• Bonus: a government support officer if you’re navigating single parenting, benefits, or child support.

Oh—and if you’re juggling a shared business or past IP talks with your ex? Lawyer up, my friend.

3. A Mental Health Wingwoman (or Wingman)

Counsellor, psychologist, social worker—whoever your person is, make sure they’re qualified and that their office feels like a judgment-free sanctuary.

In some places, you can even ask your GP about subsidised Mental Health Plans. Use what’s available. This isn’t about pride—it’s about progress.

4. A Safety Net (Literally)

If abuse is part of your story (and abuse isn’t just physical—think financial control, gaslighting, intimidation, stalking…), please don’t navigate this alone.

Find a domestic violence service, police contact, shelter, or case worker. You deserve safety without needing to justify it.

5. A No-Drama Mentor

Find someone emotionally neutral. A coach. A mentor. A wise soul who can help you navigate the legal stuff like it’s business—because honestly, it is.

They’ll help you zoom out, cut through the emotional fog, and stop you from throwing energy (and money) at things that won’t matter in a year.

6. A Spiritual Grounder

If faith is your thing, reconnect with your spiritual community. If it’s not, that’s fine too—just find something that helps you stay grounded. A meditation. A forest walk. A moment on your mat. A breath.

7. A ‘Woo-Woo’ Wildcard (Optional, but Honestly So Good)

If you're open to it, a spiritual reader or intuitive coach can help spark that tiny flicker of hope again. And if that sounds a little out there, cool. Just consider what might help you believe in your future again—even if it’s just for five minutes.

8. Support for Your Kids (Because They’re Feeling This Too)

Student counsellors, school liaisons, child psychologists—these people can be absolute angels. You don’t have to be everything to everyone. And yes, your kids can thrive too.

9. Health + Healing Helpers

Fuel your body. Move it. Nourish it. It’s tempting to go full comfort-food-and-couch-mode, but your body is processing a lot—and it needs backup.

• Book a walk with a friend.

• Try that yoga class.

• See a nutritionist.

• Visit your hairdresser. Book the facial. Call your massage therapist. Even tiny doses of self-care are tiny acts of rebellion against the heaviness.

10. Empowerment, Baby

This is where you stop surviving and start stepping into your next chapter.

Read books that help you feel seen (Broken Open, anyone?). Watch TED talks. Cry-laugh at YouTube videos that remind you you’re not alone. Journal. Bookmark the quotes. Join a group (and leave the ones that make you feel worse).

And most of all? Choose one small thing each day that makes you feel more like you.

A Final Word on Your Village

The people who love you will walk this road beside you. But they’ve also got their own lives—and that’s okay. Make space for laughter. Lightness. Old inside jokes. That version of you still exists, even if she feels buried right now.

And find that one person who always makes you laugh until you ugly-cry. You need them. Every village needs a jester.

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You don’t have to do this alone. But you do get to choose how you rise.

With love,
xx Annie
Founder, Hello Mojo